“My boyfriend seems distant and I’m afraid he’s about to leave me.” That’s an all too familiar statement to many women. Love is a tender balancing act. In the early stages of a romantic relationship we all do everything in our power to impress the man we’re crazy about. Unwittingly we sometimes do things that turn him off. It’s happened to most of us at some point and unfortunately losing a promising relationship can be the result of one wrong move. Love isn’t just about all the things you need to do right, it’s also about avoiding things that can instantly kill his attraction.
If your boyfriend seems distant it’s likely because he’s considering ending the relationship. As women, we often try and defeat the nagging suspicions that our relationship is failing by convincing ourselves that the reason our boyfriend is acting distant is because he’s so overwhelmed with love for us. That’s never the case. What is happening is that he’s emotionally disengaging from the relationship and you.
You may think that the best thing to do when this is occurring in your relationship is to get your man to talk about what’s bothering him. Typically this plays out with the women hounding the man non-stop to talk. You ask him repeatedly what’s wrong, he says “nothing” and you keep at him until he finally boils over and a fight ensues. This is not what you want to have happen.
The best thing you can do is give him some space. He won’t be expecting it and he’ll appreciate that you’re giving him the room he needs. Don’t stop talking with him or seeing him altogether though. Push the relationship into a friendship state as opposed to a romantic one. Meet him for coffee and keep the conversations light and generic. The key is to remain a presence in his life. You want to show him that you’re mature enough to handle a change in the dynamic of the relationship and that you’re supportive of what he needs. Once you’ve settled into your new roles as friends, he’ll begin to open up again and eventually you can give the romance another try.
